Saturday, February 18, 2017

Positive (baby) Step

I have been unemployed for six weeks.
That is the longest that I have not gone to a job for the past 9 years.  I like a lot about it.
I like having my weekends to myself, and the family.  The nature of the last business I was in required weekend work, almost each week.
I like that the house is cleaner than it has been since we moved here.
I like not feeling rushed.

I do, however, feel pressure.  I am sorting it out, because I think it is being created by my internal voice that says there is much to do.  I believe that there is much to do.  As a matter of fact, I'm positive.  This is the challenge of coming up for air.  I am a deep breather.
I look around and think that, while I'm quite happy, I'm still feeling like I have stuff to do.

Positive step this week:  I actually sold an item on "Offer Up".  It was a gadget that I have only used once or twice for crafting, and I knew it would have value to someone else at a very reduced price.
Last week, an "Offer Up" user reached out to me and told me that she really wanted it, but she had to do her bills before she could buy it.
She got back to me and told me that last week wasn't going to work, but she'd check back next Thursday, which was this week.
In the meantime, I had two people reach out to try to buy the item at a reduced rate, and I dragged my feet.  I reached out to the original person on Thursday to gauge her interest, and she was trying to figure out if she could afford it this week.  After turning down the other two who tried to reduce the price, I went ahead and reduced it for the original buyer, let her know  and delivered it to here, because her vehicle wasn't reliable enough to come get it.
While that is a small thing, it was something that, once again, reminded me that little kindnesses matter.
The girl who bought my gadget showed up at our meeting spot with her husband/boyfriend, and was so excited that the cost had come down and she didn't have to hesitate to buy something that she wanted.  She was grateful, and I was too.
I felt "lighter" in a way that has to do with looking at another human being and seeing a reversal in my own thinking.  I have had a really nice income for the past few years, because I worked for "extra money" that allowed me to do things on a whim, or buy a gift for someone, or shop when I wanted to for the kids, etc.  I don't have that luxury anymore, and I have tried to be very conscience of that.
I am terrible with a budget.  I'm going to fix that about myself.
"Extra" money existed while I worked  because my husband provides EVERYTHING that our family NEEDs.
The line has been blurred between need & want, to a degree that wasn't good for me, and I'm going to take steps to change some patterns.  It isn't easy.

Breathing Deep into mindful handling of money is going to be a theme for me going forward.

How about you?  What was your positive step this week?

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